Nobody Cares by Dara Ly [Book Excerpt of Chapter 3]
The Issues
The Issue with Mindset
The way to find out whether you have what it takes to become successful is to try it. Most people will try for a few times, and they will quit because they’re weak-minded. But don’t take my word for it. You can do whatever you want. It has nothing to do with me, by the way. Who am I to tell others what to do?
Most of what you believe to be true doesn’t have to be necessarily true if you are clueless most of the time. But through times and experiences, you become more informed, and your judgment may get better and more accurate in how you determine the situations or the people around you.
You could be wrong many times about many things before you could get just one thing right for once. You could experience many errors and many failures before you could succeed in doing something. It’s a painful process, and anyone who tells you otherwise is either a fool or a liar. You can’t grow up if you don’t learn from your experiences.
Most of them are not pretty, but the funny part is that you learn better from ugly teachers. No offense to your high school teachers! But you get the point, right?
Hard times make you strong. Ugly experiences give you wisdom and better judgment. There is more to life than you ever thought because with a new and improved mindset comes new ideas and strategies to improve your life.
The Issue with a Relationship
My time is limited, so I won’t be spending any of it with anybody who is a distraction. I know whom I love and accept, although she may have some flaws. Who hasn’t? Only God is perfect!
I intend to accept her and learn to live with her just like she does for me. A relationship and/or marriage, to me, is an agreement honored by both sides, under certain rules or conditions. If someone tells you that he or she loves you unconditionally that person is either a liar or a fool.
Nobody will love and accept you unconditionally, unless he or she is lying to you.
Don’t take my word for it. Listen to your heart and decide! If you still have it!
The Issue with Interest
Most of the things that you choose are determined by only two factors: Interested or not interested.
If you’re interested in being rich, you’ll work hard. If you’re not interested in hard work, you may have a difficult life. If you’re interested in happiness, you’ll find the way to be happy. If you’re interested in drama, you’ll be consumed by drama. I wish I could say otherwise, but it is what it is.
Most of us think that we are helpless in choosing what we want, but nothing could be further from the truth. What you have comes from what you choose, whether you’re interested or not interested.
For me, I’m only interested in a few things: being wealthy, healthy, and happy.
The Issue with Learning
There are many ways to reach your goal, but which way is the best? There are many books that can guide you through, but which author do you prefer? There are countless schools that are providing knowledge and education, but what kind of knowledge or education are you seeking?
How to become independent learner? That’s the question I’ve been trying to answer. In other words, I’m still searching for the answer for that. I don’t want to sound like an expert, but personally, I rely on my own judgment and research when it comes to finding a certain type of knowledge.
I wouldn’t recommend anyone about anything.
That’s just not my way!
Even in this book, all I’m doing is remind people what they have forgotten. Simply put, this book talks about the issues that people think but do not speak out. Those thoughts have been stuck in their mind for so long that they become blurry. Some people could hardly recognize some of these issues, but that’s okay because nobody cares!